Episode 033: Intimacy Inventory

Questions for Introspection, What You Bring to Your Relationship, and Taking vs Being Taken (including CNC)

What is an Intimacy Inventory, and why is it important for our relationships? (1:52) Get Access  here… 

What strengths do you bring to your relationships? What is a dilemma that you carry with you? (5:32)

Stubbornness and fighting with your partner; how to put a sexy, fun spin on it. (9:44)

When do you feel most free in your relationship? (14:28)

When you’re out at a bar with friends, do you have a hall pass?  What agreement do you have with your partner about what is allowed?  (17:04) 

Independence as a turn on. Separateness and  mystery and their impact on relationships. (21:36)

What do you like to experience in sex? (27:40)

Being taken, thoughts on CNC (consensual non consent aka rape fantasies), extreme desire, safe words, and using BDSM as a healing experience. (29:59)

Seeking a release, freedom from responsibility and timelessness during sex. (35:35)

How setting time boundaries impacts sex and mental state. (37:05)

How the dominant messages around gender norms shape your sexual beliefs. (42:10)

To ask, to take, to give, to receive and to refuse: which are you most comfortable with? Which would you like to stretch? (48:44)

Rapid Fire final questions of the intimacy inventory questionnaire. (54:21)

What is a difficult conversation for you to have around sexuality? Uncomfortableness with not feeling attracted to someone who is interested in you and turning them down. (56:38)