Episode 030: How To Transition To Sexy Vibes in A Group

What happens when you’ve had the same group of ENM friends for years?

In this episode, Vee and Elle sit down with M to chat about the catch-22 of having sex with your friends: how sometimes you sacrifice the quantity of sex for quality when you develop stronger friendships with your ENM partners.

Strategy to turn the vibe sexy in big groups: “orgy boards”, taking a group vote with eyes closed, changing locations/spaces. (4:22)

Why is it so much more challenging when trying to transition into sexy time with a larger group? (9:34)

“Open door policy”: communicating intentions to the group when going off with one person. (12:19)

“Emotionally weak people”: not taking answers personally as the asker of the question, and taking responsibility for your own triggers. (19:00)

Strategy to avoid the challenge of transitioning into sex altogether: day orgies, new energy, and what creates desire according to Esther Perel. (23:41)

Building sexual things up in your mind when you know there will be more opportunities. (32:53)

How to disentangle from someone in an orgy when you want to move on to a different person or position. (36:45)

M’s responses to past episodes: grinding while eating out and face-sitting. (40:04)