Episode 036: Triggered: Bringing a Third to a Sex Party

Bringing a Third to a Sex Party, The Stories We Tell Ourselves, and Perception Vs Reality

Elle and Vee share their experiences and challenges of bringing a third to a weekend getaway and how they worked through being triggered.

Vee shares her fears, desires and boundaries for this episode. (2:26)

A challenge of having a third partner: balance. (3:57)

Codependency, projection, and the stories we tell ourselves. (6:41)

Elle discusses another potential challenge of having a third: feeling left out. (13:32)

Elle's example of "the stories we tell ourselves" and the lessons learned. (18:16)

Avoidance as a coping strategy. (26:36)

Confirmation bias to support our stories. (28:47)

Elle's plan/tools to deal with triggers in the future. (30:15)

What Vee would do differently the next time she brings a third. (31:49)

The Four Agreements. (45:08)

How instagram impacts our mental health. (48:56)