Episode 028: Navigating Emotional Triggers

Navigating Emotional Triggers in Group Sex, and The Beauty of Day Orgies

In this episode, Elle and Vee cover a range of topics, from dealing with the emotions of multiple partners in threesomes and foursomes, questioning how to be an ethical porn consumer, and recapping Vee's weekend at a lifestyle party, including:

How to deal with it as the unicorn in a threesome when there is an issue with the couple. (1:27)

Listening vs giving advice when someone is triggered, and where to have the conversation. (8:26)

What to do when the vibe is off between a CNM couple in a group sex situation (reading energy and holding space). (12:40)

Fears, Desires and Boundaries: a tool to clear the air, break the ice and set expectations before the orgy. (15:38)

What to do when you're triggered during group sex, and giving the couple space to regroup and get sexy. (18:22)

Paying for porn: how do you find what’s worth paying for?  (27:30)

How do you know you’re watching porn that’s being ethically made? (30:30)

Gemini Party Recap (34:32)

- Connecting with and prioritizing your partner at the beginning of a lifestyle weekend. (35:37)

- The difference between pool parties in the ENM lifestyle and vanilla pool parties.  Friendships with the opposite sex. (39:34)

- Day orgies, why having repeat partners makes for better sex, and compersion. (45:00)

- Sitting on faces.  (50:07)

- The “comedown” from a big weekend: Strap ons, “pegging” vs “strapping”, how to have an awesome seven-person orgy, and how can you feel sexy in a big group? (53:33)