Episode 026: Going Deep with Spicy Vanillas
WHAT QUESTIONS DO YOU HAVE YOUR PEOPLE IN THE LIFESTYLE?
In this episode, Elle and Vee and their monogamous friends answer each others’ questions, including:
What does the word vanilla mean to you, and is it offensive? (2:40)
What do you think of when you think of ethical non monogamy or open relationships? What words or concepts come to mind? (4:38)
What changes have you observed in your friends since they started exploring the non-monogamous lifestyle? (9:55)
What questions do you have for people in the lifestyle?
How does it work? (14:27)
How can you watch your partner with someone else, without feeling jealous? Jealousy, hotwife, and cuckolding. (15:55)
How can you be friends with someone who has sex with your husband (your metamour)? Friends with benefits. (21:44)
How does emotional intimacy work inside versus outside the primary relationship? (26:38)
How do you protect against STD’s when you have so much sex? What is fluid bonding? (32:38)
How do you tell your family and/or children about your open lifestyle, or how much do you tell them? How do you balance your time between kids and your partners? (35:37)
If you’re trying to get into girl-on-girl, how do you get comfortable playing with women? (44:46)
Will you ever be totally sexually satisfied? (48:09)
What happens when you get older or ready to settle down? Will you ever be with one person? (51:38)
“Serial monogamist and flirt with a high sex drive and little inhibition” poses some thought-provoking ideas and questions about polyamory and religion, and questioning your own choices further. (55:02)
