Episode 012: Guys Gone Deep

The Builder and M on Double Penetration, Short Men, and Friendships in the Lifestyle

This week, Elle and Vee chat with M and their friend The Builder, who are known as the "DP Duo" in their friend group.  The girls ask them all the dirty details about double penetration, as well as go deep on The Builder's journey with his wife in the lifestyle.  

What does DP (double penetration) feel like for the guy? (1:12)

How did The Builder get into the lifestyle, how has an open relationship affected his relationship to himself and to his wife? (5:32)

Sex with strangers vs. friends: the connections and friendships in consensual non-monogamy. (10:20)

Setting intentions, and prioritizing reconnecting with your partner at play parties. (17:06)

Should you check in with both partners before playing with someone? (22:36)

Back to double penetration: the difference between anal and vagina, logistics, anal prep, and positions. (28:26)

Connections between men in ENM (ethical non-monogamy). (38:30)

Short men: what it’s like to be a short man in the lifestyle, what gives them confidence, and how the lifestyle inspires us to stay in shape. (40:41)

Talking to your vanilla friends about your lifestyle, and how openness is not for everyone. (52:37)

Growing with your partner: differing sex drives, developing feelings for a unicorn, communication and acceptance. (57:39)

How to find new play partners: online, apps, and in person energy. (1:01:45)