Episode 020: Weddings from an ENM Perspective

Divorce, and the Meaning of Being "Settled"

In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up on Elle’s trip to Florida with the Joy Fam, while Vee was at a monogamous friend’s wedding… which prompts the girls to go deep on weddings, divorce, and what it means to be settled.

Elle’s sexual mishap with The Builder in Tampa, and how she moved forward from her Hedonism trigger. (1:51)

Integrating lessons from podcast episodes: was Elle able to enjoy herself on marijuana? How was Vee able to work through her FOMO (fear of missing out)? How important it is to have friends you can be your authentic self with. (6:30)

Gravitating towards curious, open-minded people at “vanilla” events, and setting boundaries with monogamous friends at weddings who might be interested in playing while drunk. (14:48)

Avoiding being the “talk of the town”: What to do and what not to do at a monogamous wedding when you’re ENM (ethically non monogamous). (16:22)

ENM Weddings: What could a non-monogamous commitment ceremony look like? Elle describes a BDSM/lifestyle wedding that she attended, including a master/slave ceremony, shibari, and primal play. (21:01)

Marriage and Divorce: How important is a wedding or marriage? Why do people stay in unhappy marriages? (33:40) 

How do you know when it’s time to leave a marriage? How Vee knew it was time to get divorced. (36:40)

What does it mean to be “settled”? (41:36)