Episode 021: Alternative Dating Apps for ENM and Kink

Exploring Desires, Finding Events Near You and Defining “Heteroflexible”

In this episode, Elle and Vee were inspired to chat about the alternative dating apps and websites that have worked for them in the lifestyle, including:

Feeld: what’s so special about this dating app? Is it harder for men on dating apps?  (2:08)

Exploring desires: What kinds of people do you find on Feeld? Can you find a third, other couples, or a dom on Feeld? (8:10)

How quickly should you move from the app to real life? (12:15)

Safety and dating: what does Vee do to keep herself safe when dating solo? (14:05)

Sexual orientation: how do Elle and Vee identify themselves on Feeld? Changing your sexual orientation with more experience. What’s the difference between heteroflexible and bicurious, and is heteroflexible an offensive term? Defining heteroflexible, pansexual, asexual, and skoliosexual. (15:22)

Gender options on Feeld. (27:40)

Labels: the American versus European mentality around the need to label ourselves. (28:31)

Work and Swinger Apps: what happens if your boss finds your profile? (30:45)

Fetlife: BDSM website, meeting up and finding events. (36:55)

Kasidie: lifestyle events website, backstage passes and connecting with couples before an event. (41:24)

Traditional vs swinger apps. (45:07)